A very talented knowledgeable and warm woman I know went for public office in our recent UK elections. She canvassed her socks off like there was no tomorrow. And she lost.

It takes great courage to go into a fight when you know the odds are stacked against you. The incumbent had a very large majority but she gave it her most magnificent best shot.

I didn’t contact her for some days after the election apart from a warm-hugs text as I thought she would go into purdah. I was right. She needed to mourn at least a year’s worth of devotion, at least a year’s worth of her precious energy and commitment when, in the end, her hopes and dreams were dashed.

You know that one, don’t you?

I certainly do!

You put your heart and soul into something. It could be a relationship, a job, a career, a special project. Far more tenderly, it could be a pregnancy or supporting someone for whom you hold a vision. Then whatever you desired didn’t happen.

You’re sad, devastated and the loss can hurt like hell!

I remember my genetics lecturer starting his module with the words, ‘If it can go right, it can go wrong!’ But, despite the chance of it going wrong, the wonder of being human is to have hopes and dreams, to aspire to a greater vision, to freakin’ well give it a go!

Jess Phillips MP advocates that you OCCUPY THE SPACE! What she means is, as women, our default position is not to go for things. Yet how often do you hear someone speak or do something you could have done and think to yourself, ‘I could do better than that.’ You bet your sweet ass you could…

So next time you could do something GO OCCUPY THAT SPACE!

I spoke with my friend yesterday and, yes, she’s still processing and learning. Our defeats, if we look them in the face, are a great source of compost for our personal and spiritual evolution.


The learning through the doing of the thing prepares you for the even better opportunities that will emerge if you remain open to them. They will occur because, by your actions, you’ve let the Universe know ‘I AM UP FOR THIS!’

Doesn’t matter that you don’t think you can do it. How do you know if you don’t give it a shot? Men don’t have a problem in embarking on new things… It doesn’t occur to them they won’t work it out.


Challenge your self-sabotage, woman, and listen to that magnificent Wild Soul of yours that knows, despite the fear you feel at stretching yourself, you are made of magnificent stuff. Of course we all want to win BUT win or lose you ARE a winner…

Because, like my friend, you have the divine feminine cojones to occupy the space!

My love, respect and warm wild wishes to you…

Sharon Eden, The Wild Elder

Conquer Self-Sabotage and Smash Your Own Glass Ceiling!

PS… I’m delighted to invite you to my private Facebook group. It’s for women who are or who want to be Wild Courageous Women… So come on over and have a look around.

Stay if it’s for you. If it’s not for you, at least you’ll have given yourself the opportunity to check it out. Because… If you say YES you can always say NO afterward. If you say NO to begin with it’s very, very much harder to get a YES. Occupy the space now!